Why Can’t We Be Friends

Making friends, true friends, as a minister’s wife can be challenging. We have all been there. How much do I share? Can I commit time to going out with women from church when my husband already has so many time commitments? I need to talk with someone about stresses of ministry, but need to guard it from members. My kids need xyz, so I don’t have the time to spend with others outside of our “normal ministry obligations.” It can be challenging to say the least. But, it can also be so rewarding!

God designed us for community. He never intended for us to do life alone! Yes, that means minister wives too. Proverbs 27:17 says, “Iron sharpens iron, and one man sharpens another.” We need good friends in our life to help us long the way. We need people to share our burdens with. We need people who will help sharpen us on our walk with Christ. While making friends with women at church can be hard for numerous reasons, I want to encourage you to do it anyway. Put your fears and worries aside, and remind yourself that God wants you to have community.

We have moved a few times in our ministry. And to be honest, some friends I’ve lost along the way, and it was hard. But, some of my very best friends are other women from other congregations I became friends with along the way. Be a blessing to them and they will be a blessing to you.

- Kadee Jenkins