Emotions

Emotions

During a recent Grief Seminar we were discussing some of the misconceptions that many people have about grief. Some of these misconceptions cause people who are trying to help those who are enduring grief to make statements that are not really helpful.

One of the big ones is that people don’t understand that grief is primarily emotional. Some seem to believe that it is intellectual. If you consider grief to be primarily intellectual it would cause you to respond with a list of “things” you might do to “get over” your grief. The problem is that people who are dealing with grief are not suffering from broken heads, they are suffering from broken hearts. And, as every person who has had a broken heart knows, it can take a long, long time to get over that.

All of this discussion caused me to think of all the preachers I’ve talked with over many years who have thought about getting out of ministry or who have gotten out of ministry. More times than not, it is the reality that their heart is hurting. If you are dealing with a broken heart, my prayer is that you will not make a hasty decision about leaving ministry. Please take some time to allow your heart to mend. Don’t be afraid or embarrassed to reach out to someone who might help you. There are other preachers as well as other good people of God who will care for your heart. Many have endured a heart that has been hurt or harmed by someone, and have found themselves in a place where they can now help others.

If your heart is hurting today, my brother, may God be with you. May His grace and compassion surround you. May He bring you peace. If we can help, please let us know.